Frequently Asked Questions

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Who attends the BreakThrough Weekend?

This weekend is attended by men from all backgrounds regardless of race, age, religion, sexual orientation, or economic status. The ages of the men who attend typically range from the late 20’s to the 70’s. The minimum age is 21.

What happens at the BreakThrough Weekend?

All activities occur in the context of a group of approximately 22-28 men, consisting of about 18 participants and 10 staff. The weekend incorporates communication exercises, journaling, role-playing, and discussions.

What are the advantages of participating in the BreakThrough Weekend?

Exploring important issues as part of a group deepens one’s experience and personal growth. Men are particularly susceptible to isolating themselves and embracing the belief that “I am the only one who is experiencing this.” This weekend provides the validation and healing that comes from the realization that one’s concerns and stories are shared and accepted by others. Helping and supporting other men is empowering, providing for personal growth.

Is it normal to feel nervous before attending a weekend?

You are going off to meet a group of strangers and to talk about your life and your feelings. For many, this is not a “normal” way to spend the weekend. Apprehension is a normal and healthy response to the unknown. Over the weekend, men access their own inner strength in a safe place, under the guidance of other men, and with the powerful support of new friends. By Sunday, men often feel very different emotions – accomplishment, confidence, and hope.

Will I be pushed into sharing what I don't want to?

We encourage all men to participate fully in the weekend, which includes sharing your own life experiences and emotions. Your participation in any of our processes is voluntary, and we will always respect your decision about participation without undue pressure or shame.

Are accommodations and meals included?

The BreakThrough weekend is held at a camp in Illinois or Wisconsin. Sleeping and bathing accommodations are provided in heated cabins that accommodate 10 to 20 men each. There are no private rooms, and men are encouraged to bring ear plugs. Electricity is available for men who need to bring CPAP machines. Men bring their own towels and may need to bring their own bedding. Dress is very casual. Men should bring indoor and outdoor clothing and shoes. Saturday and Sunday meals and snacks are provided, and meals are taken communally. Dietary needs can be accommodated if communicated to the Victories office in advance.

What happens after the weekend?

One way to continue the work of the weekend is to join the Personal Growth Group. Victories will provide trained facilitators for the first six months to help start the group.

How will I know if I am ready to attend this weekend?

Men are ready for this weekend when they decide to make an important change in their lives and/or desire to accelerate their personal growth.

Does Victories require men to subscribe to any particular set of beliefs? Does it have a religious component or affiliation?

Victories is a secular organization and has no religious component or affiliation. We welcome men of all religious, spiritual, and secular persuasions.

Is this weekend safe for Gay and Trans men?

Yes. All men are welcome on this program.